The secret in how to achieve a goal is to make it personal.
We can do this by having a:
1. Personal Vision – That future we hold in our minds of who we want to become, what it is we want to accomplish, and how we can contribute.
Those good vibes we feel as we have that positive vision of tomorrow can give us the extra push we need.
2. Personal Why
How do we set the right goals?
It’s not going to be in focusing on outer expectations. We’ve got to dig deep and find why it is we’re doing something.
As we break down why we do certain things, we can be guided in our decision making and goal setting because we’ll soon see that there are certain things we resonate with.
Our own intuitive leaning towards whatever area we’re vibing is a great path to take.
As we build ourselves up in confidence by increasing our skill level in relation to what we’re into, we’ll be able to contribute and develop faith that things’ll be good.
It is on this path where we can be alright with the failures that come with trying new things because of the realization that there’s always room for growth.
It’s on this path where learning and improving becomes a fulfilling process.
A Risky Path
We can put our intuition and interests aside and focus on what others expect us to do.
We’ll then start in a direction in which the compass only points where the opinions of family, peers, society, or superiors are directing it.
This is safe, but it’s also risky.
We may think, Risky? There doesn’t seem anything risky about it.
When we turn our backs on something that means a lot to us and don’t develop and use our talents, the great Les Brown describes this turn of events as a kind of spiritual suicide.
When thinking in these terms, yes, this path is very risky, so risky that we’re talking about the diminishment of our drive and inspiration.
This’s what happens when we have that vision of a greater life for ourselves, but don’t take action towards that ideal.
So how can we make sure that our goals are personal so we don’t fall into that kind of trap?
Where Did the Goal Come From?
When taking part in some sort of endeavor that requires effort and time, it’s important to take a step back and ask where the goal came from.
Something cool to understand is that if there’s a push towards the goal (something I do because I have to), versus a pull (I do it because it inspires me), there might be clarification as to whether a goal is truly ours.
If the Goal is not Yours, it’s Someone Else’s
Chasing a goal that doesn’t derive from within ourself means that it’s someone else’s goal, a societal norm, a plan of some corporate entity, etc. .
It’s plain to see how authenticity can become deluded in the pushes of these external forces.
These forces can cause us to take part in something we didn’t sign up for.
This is likely to happen if we are dependent on the pull of external stuff, so instead, we’ve got to go inward.
If we don’t get to knowing ourselves; if we don’t create our own goals of what it is we want out of life, we’ll be caught off guard with every external change of differing opinion that comes our way.
Once we set goals that really resonate with us, there will be more of a pull factor in our attitude of the endeavor.
We’ll be pulled to our vision, what we want out of ourselves, our relationships, our jobs, and extracurriculars.
Once personal goals are envisioned, it’ll drive us to focus on our personal development.
As value is increased in ourselves by developing our skills, by fostering a positive mental attitude, we’ll be more likely to attract opportunity.
There’s a gap in some aspect of life of the current results and desired results for everybody.
Nobody is perfect. For some the gap is huge, for others, they are close to a desired result.
There are problems that come with not putting in the effort to reach our goals and closing these gaps.
When we don’t make the effort to do our stuff, it’ll be numbing, it’ll be sad, and it’ll eat at us.
This’s good because it gives us the motivation to get up and get going.
But we’ve got to be careful because if we don’t get up and get going, the negative vibes get strong as inactivity ensues.
Let’s do ourselves a favor and start working on that thing.
That thing we were going to do, but our doubts tell us no.
Forget the doubts, acknowledge the fear, and go for it anyways.