Bad vibes are unwelcome.
But sometimes they enter our world as a result of these two things.
1.) Inaction
Knowing deep down that stuff needs to be done, but not doing our stuff.
This state of inaction causes regret.
2.) Busyness
Shouldn’t busyness be the solution of inaction?
What we’re talking about here is the busyness that comes with being occupied with the daily bustle, but not tapping our personal goals and getting inspired.
When somebody is working on their personal goals, that’s not busyness, that’s the grind.
Solutions
For problem #1 it seems pretty clear. There’s nothing behind it, we’ve got to just straight up do our stuff.
We just do what we do, feel the momentum, motivation will come and go, but we still keep grinding. Willpower.
Problem #2 gets a bit more complicated.
Being stuck doing something that we don’t want to do, and seeing no end in sight, it’s tough. We are doing the work .. we’re just not feeling it.
If we find ourselves in this predicament, our responsibility is to search out fulfillment. We can do this in two ways.
1.) Change Attitude
Sometimes we are where we are and that’s it. It’s life. No matter how much we would like something to change, our external control is limited.
Now this doesn’t go to say that we lack all control. We are in control on an internal focus and mental/spiritual faculties.
Dissatisfaction comes with not having an attachment to the thing we are doing.
So what we can do is adjust our attitude by finding ways to be thankful or ways in which we find purpose in the situation we’re in. Then the good vibes will flow, even if the outer circumstances haven’t changed.
But Still
This doesn’t go to say that being content with circumstances that we are not feeling is the only way to go.
It’s important to feel that progress is being made in ourselves and our goals. That we are developing our skills on a regular basis.
If this is not the case in the effort being put in to any kind of work, it’s good to make it a big priority to find something that resonates with us in which to put effort, energy and time.
This goes into the next solution.
2.) Change Circumstance
The thing is that many of us find ourselves in circumstances that we didn’t seem to want or choose.
We’re stuck and we want out.
If that’s the case we can go hard in the paint to change the circumstances we want to change.
This can happen by making ‘hunting’ for a new situation a part-time job.
Hunting
We can be almost certain that we are not going to find something in which we can be inspired by sitting back and waiting for whatever comes our way.
We’ve got to be proactive and learn about the different fields that compliment our interests.
Once we are vibing that area of interest, we need to find some way to get experience, which means learning and failing.
We may be surprised of how much we love something we never would’ve though we’d have an interest in, and inversely, may be very surprised at the fact that something we thought our whole lives to be compatible with our interests, is actually a downer once we get into it.
Conclusion
As described above, to learn new things and get into areas that we are unfamiliar with will be something that’ll get us out of our comfort zones and may result in some initial pressure, fear, or stress.
We are destined to fail in small ways as we push our way through the unknown. But after that we’ll be in a better place.
Let’s take a step back and make an effort to seek out purposeful opportunities.
A boatload of great advice here. I especially liked the way you suggest to have an attitude change if our circumstances are not right so that we can get on a positive thankful vibe, but then not to just get stuck there, but move ahead, progress and find ways to make the circumstances become how we would like them to be. Like you said “It’s important to feel that progress is being made in ourselves and our goals” Makes me want to get more proactive.
i’m glad – thanks for sharing!
I find that #2 is a real problem for me. Not that I am stuck doing things that I have to do but that i get distracted from what I need to do by lots of essentially unimportant stuff. I’ll go to my email to check if I received a reply to an important work email and then end up spending half an hour or more replying to irrelevant stuff! Or I’ll set aside time to clear up and end up getting involved with something interesting I found only to find out two hours later that I have achieved nothing.
This always depresses me! Do you have a solution? !
I struggle with the same thing. I just read a book called willpower and it talks about the 1 option rule. We usually procrastinate because there are other things to do, things that are easier and less important, and we do these things instead. what the 1 option rule is all about is that we either do the thing we sought out to do, or nothing. When we aren’t doing anything, we’ll want to do the task at hand because we’ll feel no progress being made. this solves the problem with procrastination tasks because we won’t have that opportunity of feeling the illusion of progress because we rule those tasks out. I hope that makes sense!
Hi there,
What a beautiful and interesting article, I really enjoyed the reading! I just have finished reading a good book “Get everything you want in life” written by Jonathan Assaraf. Great book!
My father used to tell me that if I don’t do what I planned, then I will regret it all my life. He was right, but when we have children and a lot of responsibilities, it is not always easy to do what you dream of. However, dreaming is fantastic and very healthy and also makes you do things you never thought you will do:)
Thank you very much for this excellent post!
Thanks for the recommendation. I’ll keep my eye out for that book. and yeah, the responsibilities come and it makes us have to prioritize our time. 30 minutes a day everyday for a month is 15 hours a month. someone could do a lot of damage in 15 hours
I really enjoyed this article! I was stuck in busyness in school. I knew I didn’t want to do what I was studying for the rest of my life but I was so far into it and had so much work to do that I just plowed through. Next I was stuck in inaction when I landed the job and was reminded that i really don’t want to do this! I took a long time of searching, about a year and a half, but I finally found what I was meant to do. Great article! It takes time and can seem impossible, but it is totally worth it to figure out what makes you happy.
Thanks for sharing your story.y!
I love this short and sweet article, it’s very easy to read and skim through.
I agree that there are some type of busyness that’s not productive, even when you are working towards your dreams. I’ve found that you still need a rational plan of action to really make the most out of your time.
My main struggle while working towards my passion is keeping myself positive. A lot of times, I found myself tired as I work towards my goals and while I can keep going, I’d love to know how to keep a better, more positive day to day vibe.
Thanks for sharing!
Cheers,
Anh
Thanks man.. i’d recommend just putting yourself around positivity, positive people, books, motivational speeches, etc.
Great article. I have to admit that I am guilty of problem number one. Procrastination has probably caused me more lost opportunities than I realize. I really like the advice about changing your situation. This is something a lot of us struggle with at times. We get so caught up in what is wrong in our lives, we miss the obvious solutions.
I find that problem one and two can be 2 sides to the same coin. Not doing anything because you think you are too busy. It’s kinda like finding excuses because of the fear of failure is very real. I like to believe that people want to pursue their passion but the fear of failure coupled with excuses we can easily find from the circumstances of life just stops us from pursuing our passion. Hey, but heck, we can still fail by not trying rite!
good point. thanks for the comment!
I really love your writings. What you have just written are very important things for anyone.
We need to come out from our comfort zone in pursuing our goals. It may be a little hard initially but with the perseverance that we have, we’ll make it.
Your first point about inaction is so bang on. I know over the years I found getting things done was easy when I am busy all the time. When I finally was able to get my main business making solid money by working the best contracts, the down time in between became my biggest problem. I was unable to make simple moves and decisions that normally I won’t even think twice about. Seems strange how the vary thing I want, too have more time to rest was the thing that almost tanked my business. I was able to get back in control exactly as you stated with a change of attitude. By simply bringing back the passion I had in the beginning to my business I was able to get it back rolling again smoothly. Nice to the point article!
Thanks for sharing that – I know exactly what you’re talking about, It’s actually really difficult when there seems to be too much free time. Glad to hear that things are rollin now!
Motivation of changing an attitude is the key. Once a person decides they are done with negative self-talk, that’s when I feel the change happens. i love the title of your blog. Good vibes should always be free, as they come from within a person. Passion hunting seems the way to go to bring on the good vibes.
Great article.Sending lots of happy vibes your way.
Thanks for the happy vibes Jagi