When we are not productive we weaken our willpower.
When our self-control is weak, we tend to procrastinate more and more in a vicious cycle of postponement.
It will lead to lost respect of one’s self.
At this point we may start looking for external validation, and we may get it.
It might make us feel good for the moment, but the fact of the matter is that this external validation is not self-respect.
Self-respect’s got to be earned on that personal level, where we can tell ourselves, I did everything I possibly could have done.
There is no shortcut because we know down deep how much we gave. If it wasn’t our best effort, we don’t get respect.
Forget about external validation.
What needs to happen is that we’ve got to get on a level of integrity with ourselves, question our motives as to why we do things, measure our efforts, and make sure they align with our values and goals.
Our Corner of the Universe
Harnessing willpower comes first and self-respect follows.
When we focus on our lack of control, we diminish our willpower and possibly convince ourselves that we are not accountable or responsible for the things we should be.
Many things are out of our control, but there is a small realm in which we do have autonomy.
This has to do with ourselves, our learning, our conscious thinking, and how we choose to spend our time.
Alders Huxley said,
“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.”